By Sharon Sassler and Amanda Jayne Miller, authors of Cohabitation Nation: Gender, Class, and the Remaking of Relationships
“While we never set out to be scholar-activists when we started interviewing couples for our book, we quickly realized that we couldn’t tell these people’s stories without also considering public policy.”
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In our book, Cohabitation Nation, we explore the lives of college-educated, middle-class couples as well as their service-class peers. Even in determining whom to interview, we recognized the disappearance of what were traditional working-class, blue-collar jobs. Instead, most of our service-class couples were making ends meet through retail or customer service work, waiting tables, or, for those who were lucky, bookkeeping or computer repair.
As the stories of the service-class unfolded, we learned how reducing public investments in young people transitioning into adulthood could directly impact romantic relationships. A lack of affordable housing and good paying jobs meant that couples often moved in together far faster than they would have liked, leading to relationship conflicts. Those who might have otherwise broken up now found themselves stuck in a joint lease. Relationship challenges are further compounded when low-quality insurance or inflexible work hours made procuring effective forms of hormonal birth control out of reach. Finally, most service-class couples who wanted to marry also believed that they needed to be more firmly established economically – having a stable job and some savings in the bank – before they could tie the knot. While a responsible viewpoint, this meant deferring marriage.
Our findings suggest that politicians who wish to promote healthy relationships and healthy families can take several steps to do so.
- First, rather than raising rents on lower-income families (as the department of Housing and Urban Development is currently proposing) it is important to ensure that affordable housing is accessible to all. Rental units for emerging adults and young couples have become far too sparse and costly in metropolitan areas across the U.S.
- Continued efforts to guarantee that workers earn a living wage would help reduce the odds that the lowest-quality matches would be stuck together in volatile unions.
- Further, rather than defunding Title X clinics, making sure that contraception stays affordable and readily available will help couples plan their families for a time when they feel ready (often defined as after having completed school, earned a promotion or more stable job, and being set in one’s relationship.)
These policies would help support all youth, regardless of their level of advantage or location on the political spectrum, while strengthening intimate relationships. And they just might lead to more “Happily Ever After” stories.